The other day I read comments to one of posts and got terrified: so many work from a morning to night, not seeing family, someone abandons children on a weekend with grandmothers, and go to do orders, etc. I remember myself a few years ago, when I only began to work: round the clocks I sit at the computer, all weekend I wrote down tutorials and wrote the articles, and when orders went, then I began to work yet at nights. Even being on a vacation, I continued to work.
But once I got on the living training that compelled me fully to cut again the business hours. Training was on a quite remote theme, however at some instant a trainer said: "In the process of work and by a race after money you have no authority to forget about those, for whom you do all of it. Those, who you so try for the sake of, must be
always on the first place for you ". These words opened my eyes on my situation. Actually, only for the sake of these words I needed to come on this training.
I understood that trying to do better to the family, I do only worse. What will remember my daughter after a few years: that how cool we went at the seaside that year or that she did not see the mother that ploughed practically, that a child enjoyed in summer? Beautiful dresses/blouses or always sitting at the computer mother that worked, to make her daughter look as a doll?
Then I said myself - my family is the topmost.
How it reflected in reality:
1. I took to myself that time, when I will not work not under any circumstances - on Sunday and each evening, when daughter comes from school. This time is only for her.
2. On Saturday we, as a rule, work, but child here with us: we assign her that she helped us, or she engages in the businesses in this moment - draws, plays, reads. Thus on Saturday we do not abandon important businesses requiring an overpressure, therefore during work we communicate calmly, laugh loudly, joke. If it is needed to do something, requiring a concentration, then it only then, when daughter sleeps. Such principle allows us not to be nervous, if daughter distracts us with something, and vice versa, work merry and friendly.
3. I began to work less, but more productive. For me the always strictly taken time is on writing of posts, prosecution of tutorials and answers on a comments. This time occupies at most 2 hours in a day. All other time, if I work on orders, I do not open web-sites that does not need me for work presently.
4. To teach myself to work, not distract, I periodically include a timer (before I used him constantly).
As I use a timer. Maximal time on that it can be set - 45 minutes, minimum 5 minutes. When I only began to work with a timer, I put a timer during all day: 45 minutes on this work, 15 minutes ona break during that it is possible to have a drink of tea or getting on some other work, et cetera. You do not present how much can be done for a day! For example, I could work at once on two different orders, and quite not to get tired, because I changed the type of activity constantly. Mainly, beforehand to prepare all necessary materials and instruments on different tables and after the wearing-out of timer it is simple to pass to other business. It allows to work a ten times more productive and quicker!
5. I use helpers. As helpers for me acquaintances and relativescome forward, as a rule.
For what works it is possible to take helpers. For example, it is possible to find a helper on the dispatch of parcels to the customers, in fact it occupies lots of time - to go down on mail, stay in a turn, fill in form et cetera. By the way, helpers can become your family members are childrenwith the greatest pleasure, cadets and sisters, and can be grandmothers and grand-dads. Maybe, they only wait when you will ask them about it. For example, my daughter adores, when many colors are ordered by me, because she helps to pack every floweret in a package and clamp a package with a
stapler.
6. We often speak with a husband and with a child on a theme work and joint rest. We build plans together, put aims, discuss, how these aims we will arrive at. It gives us all understanding that we are family, but not each by themselves.
7. I renounce orders and projects, if it conflicts with the 1 point of this list. All money cannot be earned, and there is a domestic peace - this is the most important. It is possible to treat without that chic dress on a New Year, it is possible not to eat for three chocs a day, it is possible rarer to walk in restaurants, but more often to be with the native, more often to speak with them, to have a resttogether, watch films, go for a walk on the forest.
In this post I wanted to say that Your family –is the most expensive, what you have. You have no right to deprive the family attention for the sake of work.
Sit down and think over, how you must cut again the business hours and activity so that were with familyyou a sufficient amount of time:
- work more productive and quicker;
- leave off a clock to sit in social networking and publics;
- search helpers;
- eventually, renounce those projects that will bring to you not very much money, but will take away plenty of time.
by
Estrina Kaas
